CATS PROTECTION

We adopted 2 brothers 3 years ago but recently we lost one of our boys, Now we need a bit of advice do we adopt another cat as we feel the other cats is as sad as we are and we are all feeling a bit lost but after 3 weeks is it still early days ......help

Hi,

I have looked at your message for the last week and am suprised you have not had a reply.We had a Manx and a moggy and I wanted a Bengal ,

I found the boy I wanted but 3 days before I was due to collect him our Manx Tank went missing,

I put up all the posters etc and called the breeder to say I could not have the Bengal kitten as It seemed so wrong.

A couple of weeks passed and we got not one call about Tank and the breeder called to say last chance with the kitten as he had people waiting.

We decided to go ahead and get the Bengal kitten .

That was 2 years ago and Tank never came back but if he does we will be over the moon but we love the boys we have and they get on so well so we are glad we made the decision to get the other cat.

Gill

Sorry for taking so long to get back to you Carol, its been such a busy time for our small branch the website hasnt been as well looked after as it should have been.. but the cats have ...:)

A cat does indeed suffer bereavement, but like ourselves, it is a particular companion they are grieving for.

So in my experience, I have allowed that grief to take its course, and then when I feel I am ready and that the grieving cat is ready to accept a new companion, I have then introduced another cat into the household.

Plus its often a mistake to take on another cat as a companion cat, if its not what you want, or the other cat wants.  By that I mean, often the cat thats left actually starts to enjoy being the centre of attention, and does not want another to share its limelight with, and with regard to ourselves, well, bringing another in as its our choice, something we actually want, it can lead to resentment.

This has happened to me.